Warsaw Southern Bypass – further east through Ursynów

Out for a longer Sunday early-afternoon walk through the neighbourhood to behold and share with the readers the progress of works commencing on POW (Southern Warsaw Bypass = Południowa Obwodnica Warszawy) construction site. I should have begun with a decent photo taken at the very end of S2 expressway (where cars do a U-turn to get onto ul. Puławska towards city centre) from where a view to the future route splays out, but I have not grabbed the smartphone a week ago, waiting for traffic lights to alter, the opportunity missed. Today, I have taken the camera with myself. Pardon quality of some pictures, as they were taken against the sunlight.

To the right, a former field east of Auchan hypermarket premises. This used to be a truly untouched terrain, an area cherished by MTB riders (nice bumpy paths) and dog-minders taking their animal friends for long walks. Those days are now a memory. The ground is fenced off, little is going on around so far.

Looking in the opposite direction, at blocks of flats on the northern side of ul. Płaskowickiej. Where I stand, Ursynów Zachód junction will be built, while ul. Indiry Gandhi (unfinished, straight ahead) will be extended and become a dual carriageway carrying the traffic into the expressway. Dwellers of these blocks must be truly delighted to find this just outsie their windows. (PS. watch out for the yellow banner on one of the balconies – a two-bedroom flat is up for sale)

Getting closer to what used to be a roundabout (now a regular intersection with traffic lights) where ul. Płaskowickiej and ul. Pileckiego cross each other. Here is where the lanes onto the tunnel are dug. Somewhere around here two large chimneys, lacking anti-fume filters (for which locals have called out for), will be erected. Again, properties in the area are bound to lose value, especially since even after the construction is completed, noise and fumes will become the order of the day around here.

Strolling further east, I reach the intersection with ul. Stryjeńskich. Construction site is fenced off on both sides; the roundabout still functions. The only three streets to remain passable through the entire building period are: ul. Stryjeńskich, Al. KEN and ul. Rosoła. Traffic chaos is probably inevitable, yet indispensable. In the distance, caretaker Stanisław Anioł, marvellously painted on the wall of a nearby block.

Not far later, I run across remnants of Bazarek na Dołku. A huge squabble sparked off around the place appreciated by locals and doggedly defended by merchants and their allies. I have not kept track of news on the matter of fair recently, but judging by the number of stalls on the former site of Natolin Północny bus terminus, the new location for merchants is on the other side of Al. KEN. Besides, I wonder how many people still prefer local marketplaces like that one to super- and hypermarkets.

Between Al. KEN and ul. Lanciego I cross ul. Płaskowickiej in a place where it is forbidden to take a snap through a hole in construction site’s fence. I cannot spot what I most wish to see, namely the uncovered tunnel of the underground line. Since the underground rail tunnels are quite shallow, expressway builders will need to dig beneath them (the bypass was planned there back in 1980s when the underground was built, hence no obstacles should appear along the way). Nevertheless, I fear there might be troubles and the southern part of Ursynów might be cut off from the rest of Warsaw underground-wise after an accident similar to the one which flooded the Wisłostrada tunnel in August 2012.

I admit to have known little about eastern fringes of Ursynów, there were very few occasions to venture there and there comes the sight east of ul. Nowoursynowska. Before Ursynów began to grow into a housing estate in 1970s, it consisted of fields, meadows and some farmlands. This squalid place appears to be a remnant of old days; hopefully in a while it will give way to some more civilised development.

At the edge of Ursynów, looking east from the escarpment towards Wilanów. Here the expressway will come out of the tunnel and run near recently built blocks of flat at the southern end of Miasteczko Wilanów. I still wonder how many people check zoning plans before spending thousands of zlotys on a property. For me personally, dwellings in the vicinity of POW have been ruled out of search long ago, despite lower (do not confuse for “more attractive” prices).

Looking forward to delivering some more news on the topic!

Ten features of a good relationship

Indeed guys! This post is anything but ground-breaking. Around the Internet you might find hundreds of such lists, all serving as guidelines what a happy romantic relationship should stand for. But since human being vary between one another and for each of them different aspects of relationship are of importance, I am taking the liberty of sharing ten features that matter to me.

1. Communication, construed as frequent conversations with a partner, articulating your expectations. Casual talks on how your day was are not enough. In order to built a lasting relationship one must not have inhibitions to put across what they need, what they want, but also what infuriates them. A partner ought to be your best friend, your shoulder to cry on. Besides, good communication means you can argue, even clash, but must not involve raising your voice or offending a partner. Not being on speaking terms for a period longer than a few hours does not bode well for a relationship as well.

2. Empathy, which seems crucial since in the long run friendship is what remains, while desire slowly burns out and daily routine drags romantic memories down. Being able to step into your partner’s shoes, imagining how they feel, what quandaries they tackle, what problems they need to overcome is a foundation of a satisfying relationship. The task is sometimes more than difficult, especially if your partner finds themselves in a situation you have never encountered, e.g. bereavement, job loss, etc.

3. Reliability, something totally basic, yet indispensable. The gut feeling that if things go wrong your partner will be the first person you can turn to and will not leave you out in the cold. Relationship is not built through common pleasant moments of carefree dating. It takes shape when you are ill, broke, when you suffer and the other person grabs your hand and does not let go.

4. Respect to your partner’s autonomy. Being together does not mean being together all the time. I believe it is healthy for a relationship if each of the partners has an area of their own – their job (which means working together is not the best option), their friends, their hobby. Taking a break (within limits) from your partner makes you appreciate them and decreases the risk of being fed up with them.

5. A common ground. Though differences between partners are inevitable, something must keep them together. Quite often people meet and get to know each other better because of a common hobby, common interests, something that turns them on both. I realise this point is arguable and equally well you could have partner who has dissimilar interests, but something cherished by both partners brings them together.

6. Sexual intimacy, the aspect of relationship which works like a glue, also one of the best barometers of a relationship’s quality. If things are going well, your sexual life will thrive. Nearly all problems in this sphere, unless caused by the lousy external factor called stress, mirror unresolved disagreements and other strains between partners.

7. Common approach to money. This is the first of down-to-earth things on which a mature relationship rests. Couples too frequently row over stance towards money and spending habits, to make it a negligible part of life. Also psychologists and couple counsellors underline importance of this little thing that can tear two people apart so easily.

8. A common stance towards raising children. Upbringing your offspring is a process in which both parents ought to participate and which should be carried out in an uniform manner (the sentence could be picked out as an example of academic twaddle). If your partner and you differ fundamentally in any areas, I believe you should talk it over how you will compromise or overcome differences before you decide to bring up children. A child who receives dissimilar messages from parents usually suffers and I suppose its psyche should be spared such experiences.

9. Sharing duties, the mundane ones. In the era of equal rights and opportunities gone is the model in which a woman runs a house while a man is the breadwinner. Today both females and males fulfil their professional potential, therefore washing, cooking, ironing and cleaning (let alone looking after children) are the duties they both ought to be taught to fulfil and share between each other. Even if you afford to hire somebody to clean your house, iron your shirts and get other things done, you should not forget how do handle the down-to-earth stuff, since you never know when you either no longer afford to have a third-part housekeeper or for some other reasons you will have no choice but to embark on it.

10. The healthy balance between accepting your partner they way they are and going beyond your comfort zone to meet your partner’s expectations and make the relationship better is an art. Striking such balance without overstraining oneself does more good than harm, but based on what I have observed around, is a challenge few people dare to accept.

Meanwhile, on my own front. Still less than a year of being together, less than two months under one roof. There are ups and downs, better and worse days. I have never expected a bed of roses. Each day I fear the worst and hope for the best, sometimes I ease off and lower the bar, sometimes I clam up in my own shell. But all the time I bear in mind loneliness, though filled with sadness, is a whole lot better than an awful relationship.

The first trade-free Sunday

I pledge this post customarily has been scheduled to come out on Sunday, yet on account of other, more interesting plans for today, I wrote it yesterday and could not report here the full picture of the first regular Sunday when shops are closed.

The lawmakers’ primary rationale for bringing in the ban on trade on (around half of) Sundays was to bring this day back to the family, to make people spend more time together, or, alternatively to devoid them of choice, whether to visit a supermarket or a church. Changing people’s habits through legislative acts looms as a domain of totalitarian or authoritarian governments (though I do know this assertion is debatable).

The main argument of the new law’s proponents is that shops in most countries of the Western EU are closed on Sundays. I saw this while venturing abroad and I still am in two minds about this. In January 2017, while flying in to Madrid on Sunday afternoon, knowing the trade is forbidden there, I deliberately did not any snacks to make a supper, my companion and I just ventured into town thinking we would easily find an eatery. Eventually we roamed for around an hour searching for an open restaurant. Prompting eatery-keepers to close them on Sunday means depriving them of sizeable turnover, something I do not hold with.

Imposing such solutions will not work miracles I believe. A new legal act will not make customers go to church or spend more time will relatives. It will only change their shopping habits (maybe I make a huge mistake by thinking people go to trade outpost to purchase stuff as I do, but many just go there to enjoy the weekend).

Although I am not in favour of the ban, since many years I strived not to shop on Sundays. I always believed Saturday was the part of weekend dedicated to mundane duties which could not be handled over the working week, while Sunday was a day of rest, relax, recharging batteries, indulging in hobbies, touching the nature, long walks, cycling. I have rarely contributed to thriving trade on Sundays, but coercing others not to shop just because I do is a step too far. Another aspect of the issue is the fate of employees who until now were forced to work on Sundays. The best solution here is… (yes, indeed) the imposition of higher wages on Sundays which will induce some to sacrifice their free time; another option is a voluntary participation in Sunday shift, yet such concept appears less practicable since if too few volunteers would sign up, shoppers could face the problem of understaffing.

Needless to say, emergence of a new regulation naturally turns on ingenuity of those affected by it. Petrol stations, also those state-owned, might sell washing machines, shopping galleries might be turned into showrooms. Traders come up with several ways of circumventing the new, the lawmakers will struggle to tackle it and crack down on loopholes allowing exceptions to the prohibitions.

My observations from yesterday: denser traffic and crowds in nearby Auchan and adjacent gallery.

My predictions for today: hundreds of nieogarnięci, who, despite numerous reminders, headed to the shops and run across closed doors, nearly empty roads.

All the money in the world – film review, but not only

There is no uniform definition of being rich. Two-third of Poles, earning less than national average salary of somewhat more than four thousand zloty before tax, can consider me rich. While ordinary people bridle at politicians’ five-digit bonuses, for me such handshake, leaving out my dislike for PiS, is imaginable and justified for officials who take on substantial responsibility for the state. KPMG report on luxury goods in Poland defines as “rich” a person who earns PLN 20,000 before-tax monthly. For most people unthinkably much, yet after-tax and after getting into the second tax bracket this converts into PLN 11,000 and if such “rich man” is the only breadwinner of a family with two children, their salary is high enough for comfortable life, but not to accumulate substantial savings.

People come into wealth in several ways. Some inherit it, some set up businesses and work tirelessly to grow it, some quickly climb corporate ladders and after several promotions their base salary grows to several times national average and they become eligible for generous bonuses and other perquisites. The pace of growing rich depends not only on the income, but on your… spending habits and if we talk about wealthy, yet not rich people, spending habits matter the most. Thrifty people whose lifestyle is far from luxurious are, needless to say, more likely to accumulate wealth. But while being prudent with money is considered a merit, it is easy to overstep a boundary beyond which one becomes a skinflint.

All the money in the world, nominated to several awards, including, sadly, only one Oscar nomination, tells the true story of once the richest man in the world, who also was the biggest skinflint in the world (how parsimonious a human being can be, if, being the richest person in the world, he skimps money on hospital treatment of his terminally ill son?). I will write little about the plot and simply recommend you go to a cinema before it disappears from the silver screen (unless it already has disappeared, since it premiered in late January and I watched it in mid-February). I will only share my general thought that the picture is well-shot and advise you look up in a search engine shots with Kevin Spacey whose character, after the outbreak of sexual harassment scandal, was replaced by Christopher Plummer.

The film has made me ponder even more upon the role of money in interhuman relationships. On Friday in the office I had to listen to a conversation about advantages of pre-nuptial agreement and heard several pieces of advice how to move into separate property regime after you forgot to sign the pre-nuptial agreement in the right moment.

But each day brings talks about money:

- A guy who organises a wedding gave his girlfriend a ring some time ago given to his previous girlfriend (why pay twice, everybody knows how resourceful he is, except for his girlfriend) and then worked out how much money they should collect in envelopes so that the wedding reception pays for itself.

- Another guy has told a story of his girlfriend giving him money (he had an employee account with higher interest) which he invested on the stock market (but returned to her with 3% interest, the rest kept for himself.

- Yet another guy has an arrangement with FX dealer who exchanges him currencies at most favourable rates, this guy offers exchange service to other people. The effect is that they split the difference between the favourable exchange office rate and the rate from the dealer and split the profit between the two. The funny thing is that the profit to be split is some PLN 0.30 per EUR 100.

- Talks about tax refunds, discount offers, how to save money in honest or dishonest way, etc are the order of the day in the office.

I am also thrifty and watch every zloty before I spend it, I admit, but life is not a profit and loss account; money, though at times I believe the world revolves around it, is not major (albeit essential) part of life. But the saying “gentlemen do not talk about the money” is something more people could put into practice. Actually I am not in favour of avoiding money as a subject of conversations at any price, yet I am calling for more reasonable proportions.