Sunday 19 May 2019

Tylko nie mów nikomu - film review

The yet another controversial film delving into depravities of the clergy premiered on 11 May. Unlike Kler which went to the silver screen (and has become the blockbuster immediately), Tylko nie mów nikomu is a documentary exploring the topic of paedophilia plaguing the Catholic Church in Poland and has been released on YouTube. An investment in a cinema ticket is hence unnecessary; a broadband Internet connection is fair enough to get to grips with the film in one’s place. The exact number of actual viewings in unknown, since Youtube counts in every playing longer than 30 seconds, however the approximate audience of 20 million is whopping.

The film is available free of charge since it has been… crowdfunded. Sekielski brothers had decided not to seek commercial sponsors to raise money for the controversial documentary, but had not problems soliciting donations from munificent private contributors.

Unlike several people who I have talked to, I have stuck it out till closing credits. Most of viewers I have talked to had to pause in the middle of watching since the content of the film was too heart wrenching. My tolerance to dirt is relatively high, but this film made me want to puke several times during the two-hour watch. The documentary leaves a mark or even a scar and poses questions rather than gives answers.

Firstly, hats down to victims who had the courage to tell stories of their trauma to the camera and to confront with the priests who had harassed them.

Secondly, the documentary reminds sexuality is a very delicate sphere of human psyche. It takes little to harm it and lasts years to recover from a trauma.

Thirdly, I cannot refrain from sharing the most shocking observation learnt from a film. Academically, most criminals whom we call paedophiles, are not genuine paedophiles. A genuine paedophile can reach sexual arousal only in contact with a child (an adult would not stimulate them). The overwhelming majority of criminals (including priests) convicted for sexual harassment of children do not meet such definition. They resort to sexual contacts with children, since the same activities with adults are, for some reason, out of their reach. This is the most appalling and disgusting, since I would not consider a girl (let alone a boy) aged let’s say 17 or less a sexual object. In other words, a girl below certain age (approximately 17 years) would not even stimulate me sexually. The most horrifying conclusion, not just after watching the film, but after conversations with workmates and friends is that the percentage of men who react like me appears to be smaller than I would expect…

In the public discourse, the film was dubbed as a part of all-out anti-church campaign. I would refute the accusation the film attacks the Church as an institution. It points at specific representatives of the clergy who are guilty of criminal deeds and highlights practices aimed at covering up incidences of paedophilia, sweeping it under the carpet, disregarding victims. It also plainly blows a deal to cult of the late Polish Pope whose shameful heritage in concealing paedophilia crimes is inexcusable.

The timing of film’s release somehow coincides with the home straight of the campaign before the European election. Striving to foresee the result of next Sunday’s vote in Poland, I bet the ruling party and the combined opposition who go neck in neck, will get similar outcome. Much will depend on the turnout and mobilisation of voters. I will visit the polling station around the opening hour, before heading for the sanatory. Deep down I hope a situation from 2015 presidential election when the one who was bound to win did not end up victoriously, repeats.

Customarily, for the period of being off for holidays, blogging is suspended, but in mid-June will be resumed with a coverage of the trip or with another allegedly noteworthy note.

1 comment:

Adelaide Dupont said...

So did I - and I was quite a sick chicken at that time [the week of 21 May 2019].

Your holidays seem to have been good, student-SGH!